Wednesday, November 11, 2009

My baby isn't a baby anymore.

A few weeks ago my Levi turned one. It was so exciting but sad at the same time. How can a year possibly go that fast!? I was on vacation from work for the week and we had a great time together. He is a busy boy for sure! Then Tim took a few days off for a nice long weekend. We went shopping and out to lunch. Then Saturday the 24th we had his party. It turned out to be a decent day (weatherwise not like the 60- 70 degree days we've been having in the last week but it was nice.

My dear friend Rachel made a beautiful Train cake. It even had his picture in the engine car as the conductor! It had cars with malted candy balls to represent the limestone and crushed oreos for coal ( where Tim works they have limestone and coal mines) Rachel's husband also works there. IT was a beauty of a cake. We had lots of food and fun and of course he was showered with gifts unimaginable. He is so loved and for that I am forever grateful.

It was a long day. He stayed awake for his whole party. He loved the cake. He was so cute and messy. But hey that's what you're supposed to do. He's really been enjoying playing with all his new toys. He loves all of them but it cracks me up to watch him play with his ride on train. It's battery operated and he knows just where those buttons are to make the whistle sound and to make it go. I just need to get him to understand you can't just push it across the floor. I don't want him to break it. He also loves Scout the Dog. You can program a name and what your child likes into him and the toy interacts. Oh he just lights up from ear to ear when that dog says.... I love you Levi. So Cute. He looks at me like... mommy that doggie knows my name!!

In the past week he has conquered being upright and walking. He is getting better, and faster by the day. Little Frankenstein, no more. He stumbles and falls quite a bit still but he's got the hang of it. I love to watch him mosey down the hallway and peek in the door at me.

ANd just last night before bed Emma our cat walked by and I said who is that? And he goes Emma. Proud momma moment. I have such a smart little boy. I know everyone thinks their kid(s) are smart and the best and they are all wonderful, ever single child. But I can't believe how much they really do comprehend and learn so quickly at such a young age. I have said that I lost my brain when I got pregnant and throughout the process became kinda dumb.... like I've lost my mind. But I know where it went. To the smartest little man I know. And that's ok. He can keep it. :)

Thursday, September 24, 2009

new pics

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OK I've had it with myself.

I should just give up on this process because I can not manage to get here and write anything. Yesterday Levi was 11 months old. He is growing so fast. He;s not walking yet but standing alone by himself and cruising very well. He loves looking out the windows, watching cars and trucks go down the road.

But his favorite activity lately is definitely riding on the put- put (tractor) with Grandpa. He gets so excited as soon as he hears it start up and then he's kicking and squirming out of your arms to get to it. Then he jst sits like a big boy and rides along. So cute. Then the fact that Grandpa has a horn on every tractor to make it toot toot. And Levi is so smart- he knows exactly where that button is. He also likes to sit on the seat and move the wheel like he's driving. All this while the tractor is not running and parked of course. He is so funny.

HE loves to push his little toys around- walking behind them or on his knees. We recently changed the batteries in a ride on toy and discovered that it has a little fire truck siren. Oh he loves that. I however could have lived without it... where did those old batteries go??hmmmm.

We are planning his birthday party for Oct 24th. Tim and I are taking some time off that week to spend together and reminisce. Amazing where the time has gone. It never went this fast for anything else in my life and this by far is the most important. I want to remember every moment. Which ok... maybe that is one excuse I could use that I don't get on here posting very often. That and the fact I'm working and this is cold and flu season so the pharmacy is mad like wildfire. Thank goodness only minor colds for us so far. I hate being sick and would hate for Levi to feel like that even more.

So at his last checkup- @ 10 months he weighed 26 pounds and 6 ounces. And was 32 1/4 inches long. So in ten months he had grown ten inches??? Unbelievable! I can def. see and tell it though... I mean the child is wearing 18 -24 months clothing now. Crazy!!
We are going Saturday for his 3rd (yes, you read that right 3rd! haircut. It is so long , unruly and super curly!! I am sad to see those curls go but he looks so much better with a haircut. Sadly older too. Like a little man, no longer a baby.

And for Halloween, he was going to be a little monkey-- but .... then he got two little fang teeth. Not the fronts as we expected but the pointy ones beside those. So he is going to be a little vampire. Which I was having trouble finding a coustume for .... and since I just mentioned his haircut..... I can use the little cape we bought him for his haircuts as his costume.... perfect. That's all I really needed anyways. Perfect we're set. I can't wait!!

I will definitely try to post pictures soon. Sorry I haven't been able to do that. This computer is so slow. They should change this that you can upload directly to here-- like make a photo album option. That would be great! Ok talk soonm, at least that's my plan :)

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

my attempt at loading pics this way...

ok didn't work out as planned.... I will post soon. I thought I could just attach the link-- but not that didn't work. see I need to learn more about this.

July?? Are you kidding me??

Ok I must get better at this. Priorities.....LOL!

So it's July 8, 2009! HUge developements going on lately. Levi is up on all fours rockin' and a rolling--- he's going to take off like a maniac soon. It's so amazing to see him get stronger and more confident? every day. Like he wakes up thinking oh-- let's see what we can get into?? Oh the life of a baby! Wouldn't you love to know what they were thinking? I sure would.

Monday we went to have some pictures taken. Oh that was a fun experience. My bubbly happy little cherub that ALWAYS has a smile for everyone put on this serious face and was NOT letting anyone break it! HA! So funny! He's usually a ham in front of the camera too-- but those flash bulbs were a little bigger than mommy (and Aunt Cami's) camera! No matter what I think they got some great shots. I can't wait to see them!!

Another milestone Monday was Mamamamamama. Oh yes that's right. Mama is the word of the day. So proud.. little tear. I guess that I should be jumping for joy-- but it's the beginning of MOM!! MOM!! MMMMMOOOOMMMM! too funny! In that case, why couldn't he have said DADADA!hehe.

WE've been spending time at the country club, swimming and playing in the sand. He loves it and I get some sun. I know pale is the new tan but that sooo does not look good on me. ;) I bought him a float yesterday to use in the water- obviously I am standing right there and of course I have ahold of him but he is such a wiggle worm. And likes to float and kick-- a true water baby! We tried out a float at a friend's house and he loved it so figured we'd get the use out of it. Weather seems to finally be cooperating. It has been a weird summer so far. Not too hot- actually kinda chilly sometimes. Don't understand that. But oh well. Can't control it.

Well, I guess I should go for now. I gotta get busy around here and then off to work later on. I will write again soon. And get some new pics up. I promise!

Monday, June 1, 2009

Can someone tell me how it became June 1st??

I don't know how it can be but... this year is half over. My lil man is going on 8 months old. Where does the time go?

I have completed a few daunting tasks lately. First and foremost, I gathered three months of memory cards and picture cd's.... and headed to the photo lab. When I was finished I had dprinted upwards of 250 pictures. not bad for being about 3.5 months behind. Then I started putting them in order for his album. Got that all done and realized I'm only missing maybe a week of pictures.... errrr. Now I have to find that cd. Back to the photo lab. Cami (my sister is going to hate me. Good thing I know how to work the machines and can do most of the work on my own :)

Levi's doing awesome. As of his 6 month check up he was 23.2 pounds and 30 1/2 inches long. My little chunk is wearing 12- 18 month clothes. He's growing so fast.
He has 2 teeth now on the bottom. He's now sitting up like a pro and when he wobbles over he picks his head up so it doesn't thump... so funny how they learn these things. NO crawling yet. Last week he was pushing up on his tiptoes -- sticking his butt up in the air... now this week he's got his knees up underneath him- pushing up on those but the top part is still low. But he's getting there. I'd rather not rush mobilization yet! LOL! It'll happen before we know it. I moved the settings once again on his bouncer--- to the highest one. I look at pictures of when he started in it and he just kinda sat there. Now he's a wild man!

He is so rough on everything. Loves to bang his toys together and send his toys carreening off the highchair tray at high speed! Must be a boy thing.. and just like his dad! I joke Tim's tough on equipment too....:) He's a roller over and over and over. But he loves to stand more than anything else. it wouldn't surprise me if he skipped crawling and went right to walking... hell, maybe running!

A few other things he enjoys: seeing his reflection in the mirror he just cracks up!
He loves looking and touching his waterglobe that Tim and I got him for Christmas. Every time we change clothes or diaper change he cranes his neck to look at it on the shelf. Then we go over afterwards and he ohhhhs and aahhhhs and touches it. His piggy bank is also on the same shelf and I say where's the piggy and oink and he giggles! Oh I love it! He is so much fun!

He's taking baths in the big tub and splashes like it's Sea World. :) loves sucking and chewing on the washclothes.... not too fond of that but it makes him happy. So we will compromise-- just not the one I'm washing him with.


Well, I guess I better go. Gotta work tomorrow. I'm going to try to post some pics soon. Talk to you later.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

A tooth!! Finally!

Levi is starting to get his first tooth!!

He attached himself to my knuckle yesterday and I was like WHAT!!?? is that!!??
Sure enough a little bumpy tooth is starting to appear!! Hooray!

I'm off to work in a bit, but wanted to share that fun fact! have a good day everyone!

Saturday, May 9, 2009

quick update

I feel like a total slacker.

Levi is playing on the floor right now. He's getting more and more "mobile" by rolling quickly across the blanket across the room.... A glimpse of the fast mover he will soon become. Sitting has given him a new view of things but still he's a bit of a wobble butt.

I've only taken 2 pictures this entire week and am so annoyed about it! I can't believe I've been so busy that I've neglected that. But in the big picture I haven't developed any in the last what 3 months!!?? Ok that puts it into perspective. I let things like this worry me, I do. I'm going to do better this week.

I'm really looking forward to my first Mother's Day. (Hopefully a photo op will present itself with the 2 of us) I have always been the picture taker-- I need to work on Tim a bit on taking them. I try to wait for the right shot and he just snaps away--- once again-- a patience and time issue.

SO I promise to get on here and post again soon.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Making memories

I've noticed so many things happening in the last few days. It's absolutely amazing what a few days of sunshine bring. For example:

The buds on the trees are "hatching" into little green leaves.

I walk out the door at the house and smell the beautiful fragrance of hyacinths. My favorite spring flower-- next are the lilacs, which are budding wildly too.

Yesterday I attended a bridal shower and for the first time sat and tried to pay attention as I was now a "mommy" and not a mommy wannabe. It was a beautiful shower and was so thankful for the life I have as wife and mom. It's good to see people fall in love, stay in love, and do things the old fashioned way.

On the way home as dear Levi slept peacefully, the breeze in the sunroof of my car I smelled the delicious scent of fresh mowed grass. A true sign that summer is approaching. Seeing the splashes of color in people's flowerbeds made me smile.

I don't know, maybe it's strange that I notice these things at all. But I try every season to take it all in. I notice the changes in order to appreciate how quickly things change and pass by.

I'm excited to see the nice weather hang around.

Now on to the changes I've noticed in my little man. I love him sooo much. He will be six months old in a few days and has entered a new phase- interactive and Mr. Social. His smiles light up his whole face and I love that gummy, drooly grin.
He's started squealing and it's adorable. When he gets going he sounds like a little dolphin. A strange comparison but cute.

He loves pulling his feet up in his hands and rolling back and forth from side to side. I don't know if they(his feet) will make it to his mouth- his legs seem too long and his belly in the way. I can't talk much I know I couldn't even begin to attempt that move.

He is such a good eater. He hasn't found anything he doesn't like. As soon as he gets in his highchair, he knows what's next.... food. He looks longingly at his bottle while he eats his food.... soon I will have that.

I don't know what I did to deserve such a perfect little boy. I cried and tried so long for this darling and now he's here and I don't know what I'd done before. How I'd lived without him. He fills my entire heart everytime I look at him. I'm eternally grateful for him coming into our life.

AS much as I don't want to rush the time more than it's already going, I look forward to watching him feel the grass on his feet and sand between his toes. To see him chase waves someday on the beach. Come to the door for lunch covered in mud and a smile. Help Grandpa stack firewood and hammer nails. Because where I'm from there was always fun in the work we did. Oh the memories.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Levi is 5 months!

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I honestly can not believe the time has gone so fast. You hear it time and time again-- but you don't know how fast it goes until it has flown by you personally. Too fast! I sit and look at our darling boy and wonder how it went so quickly. He's grown so much in the past few months. Becoming more independent every day. Becoming a little man. His personality is beginning to show us it's catching up to his fast growing body! What a hoot he is too. Today he decided he was going to show everyone where his tongue was-- all day long! I'd ask" Levi where's your tongue?" And a next thing you know he's got his little tongue hanging out in the wind. hehe. It was the cutest thing ever!

He has started on solid foods. He's loving peas, Squash, carrots and green beans as well as the cereal and oatmeal. Little piggy hasn't found a food he doesn't like yet. I'm thinking soon we will have a tooth or two show up. For some time now he's been a drool machine and lately he's constantly chewing on his hands and whatever else he can get in there.


He also got his first haircut last weekend. He was a big boy, got to sit on Daddy's lap while the barber snipped and shaped his darling locks into a little boy cut! So cute! Makes him look lots older, but at least the balding look is gone. He badly needs to start rolling over--- well it's better now. He's getting there and with his hair evened up it doesn't look nearly as bad. :) Just to me I suppose.

I'll attach some pictures. I know I've been slacking on here. I'm really trying to keep up. My handwritten journal is about 2 months behind (at least) so it's difficult. I gotta get caught up.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Before I was a mom....


Thanks Rachel for sending this to me. I thought I'd share it here.
You are a great friend and an awesome Mom!!
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Before I was a Mom ,
I never tripped over toys
or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not
my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.



Before I was a Mom ,
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind
and my thoughts.
I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom ,
I never held down a screaming child
so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night
watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom ,
I never held a sleeping baby just because
I didn't want to put her down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces
when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small
could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom .

Before I was a Mom ,
I didn't know the feeling of
having my heart outside my body..
I didn't know how special it could feel
to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond
between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small
could make me feel so important and happy.

Before I was a Mom ,
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night
every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth,
the joy,
the love,
the heartache,
the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom .
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much,
before I was a Mom .

Saturday, January 31, 2009

Levi 3 months

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back to work update

OH so this week, was a challenge. I went back to work on the 26th. My first day was good. I was getting back into the groove of things, trying to figure out what had changed in three months... a lot. Most of it came back to me, but I didn't want to make mistakes so I just tried to ease my way into it. It definitely was hard to leave Levi. I missed him soooo much and it didn't seem to help that every 5 minutes someone was saying-- oh do you miss him. Well, duh!! Of course I do and he's all I am thinking about, besides trying not to screw up something at work. I think about him constantly though. Wondering what he's doing and worry about if everything is ok. This part is the worst! It's the hardest thing I've had to do-- and really I am trying so hard.

We are sooo much busier now at work. Which makes the days fly so I won't complain about that. Today was absolute madness!! I felt like a hamster on a wheel. A wheel that NEVER stopped spinning.

We weighed Levi the other day and he was 18 1/2 pounds. He is growing so fast! He's into 6-9 month clothes and some 12mo. Crazy! He is smiling so much more and starting to giggle. He's slept through the night a couple of times but most of the time we are still getting up once per night (around 4am) for a bottle. Then he goes back to sleep until 7:30. He's still doing good on his schedule and hopefully it stays on track while I am working. WE're going to do our best.

I'll try to add some pictures. Talk to you all soon.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Wish I'd found this years ago.

I was on a website and one of my online friends posted this letter. I so wish I would have found it years ago. Not only for myself but to share with those that surrounded me that never knew what to say, many that never even knew what was going on because it was such a private issue I was afraid to share. Feared what might have been said and thought about us. This message says everything someone dealing with fertility issues feels at one point or another. Feelings no one else understands unless you've been there, you just don't know how hard it is to live through. To just keep going everyday while everything around you- passes you by. I know it's a long article. But a message well worth taking the time to read.

And although we have our wonderful darling son now. Many of those dark times still linger in my heart. I don't know what the future holds for us and if it will take us down this road again. But knowledge is the key and with that I will share this message.
I di not write this- although I could have- over the years if I had ever had the patience. But I don't know if the words would have formed so elequently from my mind or mouth. I have a feeling there would be a lot more profanity involved had it been written from my heart and mind.
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Shared Journey – A Letter to Family and Friends
Dear Family and Friends,

I want to share my feelings about infertility with you, because I want you to understand my struggle. I know that understanding infertility is difficult; there are times when it seems even I don't understand. This struggle has provoked intense and unfamiliar feelings in me and I fear that my reactions to these feelings might be misunderstood. I hope my ability to cope and your ability to understand will improve as I share my feelings with you. I want you to understand.

You may describe me this way: obsessed, moody, helpless, depressed, envious, too serious, obnoxious, aggressive, antagonistic, and cynical. These aren't very admirable traits; no wonder your understanding of my infertility is difficult. I prefer to describe myself this way: confused, rushed and impatient, afraid, isolated and alone, guilty and ashamed, angry, sad and hopeless, and unsettled.

My infertility makes me feel confused. I always assumed I was fertile. I've spent years avoiding pregnancy and now it seems ironic that I can't conceive. I hope this will be a brief difficulty with a simple solution such as poor timing. I feel confused about whether I want to be pregnant or whether I want to be a parent. Surely if I try harder, try longer, try better and smarter, I will have a baby.

My infertility makes me feel rushed and impatient. I learned of my infertility only after I'd been trying to become pregnant for some time. My life-plan suddenly is behind schedule. I waited to become a parent and now I must wait again. I wait for medical appointments, wait for tests, wait for treatments, wait for other treatments, wait for my period not to come, wait for my partner not to be out of town and wait for pregnancy. At best, I have only twelve opportunities each year. How old will I be when I finish having my family?

My infertility makes me feel afraid. Infertility is full of unknowns, and I'm frightened because I need some definite answers. How long will this last? What if I'm never a parent? What humiliation must I endure? What pain must I suffer? Why do drugs I take to help me, make me feel worse? Why can't my body do the things that my mind wants it to do? Why do I hurt so much? I'm afraid of my feelings, afraid of my undependable body and afraid of my future.

My infertility makes me feel isolated and alone. Reminders of babies are everywhere. I must be the only one enduring this invisible curse. I stay away from others, because everything makes me hurt. No one knows how horrible my pain is. Even though I'm usually a clear thinker, I find myself being lured by superstitions and promises. I think I'm losing perspective. I feel so alone and I wonder if I'll survive this.

My infertility makes me feel guilty and ashamed. Frequently I forget that infertility is a medical problem and should be treated as one. Infertility destroys my self esteem and I feel like a failure. Why am I being punished? What did I do to deserve this? Am I not worthy of a baby? Will my partner want to remain with me? Is this the end of my family lineage? Will my family be ashamed of me? It is easy to lose self-confidence and to feel ashamed.

My infertility makes me feel angry. Everything makes me angry, and I know much of my anger is misdirected. I'm angry at my body because it has betrayed me even though I've always taken care of it. I'm angry at my partner because we can't seem to feel the same about infertility at the same time. I want and need an advocate to help me. I'm angry at my family because they've always sheltered and protected me from terrible pain. My younger sibling is pregnant; my mother wants a family reunion to show off her grandchildren and my grandparents want to pass down family heirlooms.

I'm angry at my medical caregivers, because it seems that they control my future. They humiliate me, inflict pain on me, pry into my privacy, patronize me, and sometimes forget who I am. How can I impress on them how important parenting is to me? I'm angry at my expenses; infertility treatment is extremely expensive. My financial resources may determine my family size. My insurance company isn't cooperative, and I must make so many sacrifices to pay the medical bills. I can't miss any more work, or I'll lose my job. I can't go to a specialist, because it means more travel time, more missed work, and greater expenses. Finally, I'm angry at everyone else. Everyone has opinions about my inability to become a parent. Everyone has easy solutions. Everyone seems to know too little and say too much.

My infertility makes me feel sad and hopeless. Infertility feels like I've lost my future, and no one knows of my sadness. I feel hopeless; infertility robs me of my energy. I've never cried so much nor so easily. I'm sad that my infertility places my marriage under so much strain. I'm sad that my infertility requires me to be so self-centered. I'm sad that I've ignored many friendships because this struggle hurts so much and demands so much energy. Friends with children prefer the company of other families with children. I'm surrounded by babies, pregnant women, playgrounds, baby showers, birth stories, kids' movies, birthday parties and much more. I feel so sad and hopeless. My infertility makes me feel unsettled. My life is on hold. Making decisions about my immediate and my long-term future seems impossible. I can't decide about education, career, purchasing a home, pursuing a hobby, getting a pet, vacations, business trips and houseguests. The more I struggle with my infertility, the less control I have. This struggle has no timetable; the treatments have no guarantees. The only sure things are that I need to be near my partner at fertile times and near my doctor at treatment times. Should I pursue adoption? Should I take expensive drugs? Should I pursue more specialized and costly medical intervention? It feels unsettling to have no clear, easy answers or guarantees.

Occasionally I feel my panic subside. I'm learning some helpful ways to cope; I'm now convinced I'm not crazy, and I believe I'll survive. I'm learning to listen to my body and to be assertive, not aggressive, about my needs. I'm realizing that good medical care and good emotional care are not necessarily found in the same place. I'm trying to be more than an infertile person gaining enthusiasm, joyfulness, and zest for life.

You can help me. I know you care about me and I know my infertility affects our relationship. My sadness causes you sadness; what hurts me, hurts you, too. I believe we can help each other through this sadness. Individually we both seem quite powerless, but together we can be stronger. Maybe some of these hints will help us to better understand infertility.

I need you to be a listener. Infertile couples have a lot on their minds and need someone to talk to. Sometimes a good ear helps people get things off their chests. A good listener can help people express their anxiety, anger, and guilt; or help people work out solutions to problems. Without offering any suggestions, your attentiveness and interest may provide the comfort and reassurance I need most. Talking about my struggle helps me to make decisions. Let me know if you are available for me. Repeatedly remind me that you love me no matter what. I need to hear it so badly. Let me know you understand that this is very hard work. Help me realize that I may need additional support from professional caregivers and appropriate organizations. Perhaps you can suggest resources. You might also need support for yourself, and I fear I'm unable to provide it for you; please don't expect me to do so. Help me to keep sight of my goal.

Let me know when you don’t know what to say. I need you to be comfortable with me, and then I also will feel more comfortable. Talking about infertility sometimes feels awkward. Are you worried you might say the wrong thing? Share those feelings with me. Ask me if I want to talk. Sometimes I will want to, and sometimes I won't, but it will remind me that you care.

I need you to be sensitive. Although I may joke about infertility to help myself cope, it doesn't seem as funny when others joke about it. Please don't tease me with remarks like, "You don't seem to know how to do it." Don't trivialize my struggle by saying, "I'd be glad to give you one of my kids." It's no comfort to hear empty reassurances like, "You'll be a parent by this time next year." Don't minimize my feelings with, "You shouldn't be so unhappy." For now, don't push me into uncomfortable situations like baby showers or family reunions. I already feel sad and guilty; please don't also make me feel guilty for disappointing you.

I need you to be honest with me. Let me know that you may need time to adjust to some of my decisions. I also needed adjustment time. If there are things you don't understand, say so. Please be gentle when you guide me to be realistic about things I can't change such as my age, some medical conditions, financial resources, and employment obligations. Don't hide information about others' pregnancies from me. Although such news makes me feel very sad, it feels worse when you leave me out.

I need you to be informed. Your advice and suggestions are only frustrating to me if they aren't based on fact. Be well informed so you can educate others when they make remarks based on myths. Don't let anyone tell you that my infertility will be cured if I relax and adopt. Don't tell me this is God's will. Don't ask me to justify my need to parent. Don't criticize my course of action or my choice of physician even though I may do that myself. Reassure yourself that I am also searching for plenty of information which helps me make more knowledgeable decisions about my options.

I need you to be patient. Remember that working through infertility is a process. It takes time. There are no guarantees, no package deals, no complete kits, no one right answer, and no "quickie" choices. My needs change; my choices change. Yesterday I demanded privacy, but today I need you for strength. You have many feelings about infertility, and I do too. Please allow me to have anger, joy, sadness, and hope. Don't minimize or evaluate my feelings. Just allow me to have them, and give me time.

1. Be patient. This couple may experience mood swings with every treatment or monthly cycle. One week they may be high because a new treatment promises hope; the next week they may be in mourning for the child they lost (didn't make) this month. They may be riding an exhausting emotional roller coaster which makes their actions and moods unpredictable. Try to understand and flow with their changes. And remember that when they want to be alone, they are not rejecting you. Don't get your feelings hurt by the preoccupation they have with their problems; keep in touch.

I need you to be strengthening by boosting my self esteem. My sense of worthlessness hampers my ability to take charge. My personal privacy has repeatedly been invaded. Enjoyable experiences with you such as a lunch date, a shopping trip, or a visit to a museum help me feel normal. Encourage me to maintain my sense of humor; guide me to find joys. Celebrate with me my successes, even ones as small as making it through a medical appointment without crying. Remind me that I am more than an infertile person. Help me by sharing your strength.

Eventually I will be beyond the struggle of infertility. I know my infertility will never completely go away, because it will change my life. I won't be able to return to the person I was before infertility, but I also will no longer be controlled by this struggle. I will leave the struggle behind me, and from that I will have improved my skills for empathy, patience, resilience, forgiveness, decision-making and self-assessment. I feel grateful that you are trying to ease my journey through this infertility struggle by giving me your understanding.


For those of you that are still reading. Thank you.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

Just a quick update

Thought I'd jump on here real quick and post a couple of new developments. Well, Levi hasn't officially been sleeping through the night but-- but we are growing closer to that-- I hope. He is now going from approximately 7:30 at night to about 4:30-5:00am. Then he drinks a bottle and back to sleep he goes.

I went out the other night for a couple of hours with the girls and left Tim to put Levi to bed. Funny he didn't want to go to bed on time that night. I'll have to work with Tim a little more on the magic touch for putting him to sleep. It's really funny. He drinks his bottle, he burps, sometimes he poops-- so then we change that. Then I wrap him up in his little baby burrito swaddle. Binky into mouth. Turn him towards me on his side. He then buries his little face into the crook of my elbow and his eyes roll back, a few taps on the heiney and his eyes close. He's out. Then into the bassinet he goes. Nighty night. I guess he just missed me that night. Tim did get him to sleep-- a little later than usual but he did good nonetheless.

He absolutely loves his bath! He kicks and squirms-- he lifts his little butt up and kicks at the same time. One of these days I'm afraid he's going to slide right out of the bottom of the baby tub. It's like bathing Shamu somedays. More water around the sink than in it. He's so funny though. It's just water-- and it cleans up just fine.

He also shared a cute little laugh with us the other night. It was hilarious! I was tickling him under his chin and he just giggled! That turned the tears on. I love him so much. I never imagined it was possible to love something or someone that much. But I do. He's changed my life. And I'm so happy for it.

Well, I guess I best get to bed. I gotta get my sleep too. No breaks around here.
Talk to you all soon.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

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Where oh where does the time go??

Big accomplishment made this week, not sure yet if it was a fluke or just the beginning of a greatness. Levi slept through the night Sunday night. Now the contraversial part-- was it because the steelers won?? I don't know. I do know however he had a grand time hanging out with his Aunt Cami as they bonded over Black and Gold. He was entranced by the football game-- he's noticed the tv before so it's not like that was new to him. It was hilarious to watch him, watch it. Now what on earth does that have to do with sleeping through the night? Not sure if anything, but he was so tired that by 6:00 he was ready to zonk out. So he did for a little bit. Then it was bathtime and bottle and into his crib. He went right to sleep in his crib at Grandma's house--- even with the Steelers Cheering Section (Cami and Carli) after the win going on in the living room and a raucous game of scattergories happening in the dining room. Around nine we came home and I wondered if he would wake up when I transfered him from car seat to basinett. Nope, he didn't even peek out of an eye. At 3:00 I was up to potty, he still was snoozing away. Shortly after I checked on him again and he was still sleeping. I couldn't really relax then cause I thought as soon as I get comfortable he's going to be getting up. Tim got up at 4:30-- still Levi had not stirred. I heard Tim leave at 5:00, nothing. 6:15 rolls around and I hear the beginnings of movement in the bassinet. I couldn't believe it!

Last night he was in bed at his usual time about 7:45 and he didn't get up until 4:30am. So not completely through like the night before but still pretty stinkin' good!
I'll take 8 hours, no problem! No I just need to get in the habit of going to bed earlier myself. I find I try to stay up and get some things done at night. Thank Goodness we now have DVR and my tv shows are just recorded and I can watch them whenever I want. LOVE DVR-- if you don't have it-- GET IT!

Right now he's sitting in his little rocking chair, cooing away. Although I did hear him tooting so I think a diaper change is in the near future. Lucky me.

So I don't think I posted his update from his 2 month checkup..... drum roll........ he weighs 17 pounds and is 25 1/2 inches long. So he's gained 7+ pounds and 3 1/4 inches in 2 months! Wow! It is amazing how fast babies grow and change. He looks the same as before but yet different. Does that make sense?

I go back to work in 2 more weeks. Mixed feelings on that of course but money doesn't grow on our trees unfortunately. How I wish I could find those trees!!

Well, I guess I should be going for now. I'll post again soon. Take care and thanks for stopping by. I'm going to change a sweet (smelling) baby's diaper.